Making friends as an adult is hard enough. Doing it in a foreign country, potentially in a second language, while battling homesickness and a packed schedule of administrative tasks — that is something else entirely.
But it is possible. Here is what worked for me.
Lower Your Expectations (Temporarily)
The deep friendships take time. What you need in the beginning are people to do things with, not soul mates. Casual connections are the foundation.
Where to Find People
Expat Facebook groups are the obvious starting point. Meetup.com has groups for almost every interest in every major city. Language exchanges let you meet locals who are genuinely interested in connecting with foreigners. Take a class in something — cooking, pottery, a language — and go consistently.
Be Embarrassingly Available
Say yes to things. Suggest plans. Follow up. Be the person who makes things happen. In a city full of lonely new arrivals, being proactive sets you apart immediately.